This practice is inspired by The Vibrantly Living Social Tools. Structures of communication that provides a way to share more parts of ourselves which are otherwise difficult to express in regular communication. Tools that allow us to communicate complexity of the spectrum without reducing our experience into one or the other can foster trust and transparency.

This tool gives a way to share multiple experiences, even potentially contradictory ones, with one another in an easy & simple way. The concept of this tool is based on being able to express our feelings on spectrum in dual aspects of a singular whole: Yin/Yang, Left Brain/Right Brain, Masculine/Feminine, etc. I list here multiple variations of this tool for various situations.

The person choses on a scale of 1-10 for each of the dual aspect to express how much of that aspect is True for them.

1. Resonance/Dissonance: Resonance is when your body is feeling in alignment. It feels Expansive, Light, Open, Inspiring
   Dissonance, conversely, is when your body feels out of alignment. It feels Constricted, Closed, Not-Quite-Right. Read more here
2. Calm/Curious: When we are calm we can feel our experience holistically and with subtlety. It is a state where our creative mind is silent and present.
   Curios is the state when we can perceive and understand other’s experience, especially when it is different than ours. It is a state where our logical mind is silent and open.
   Read here on CEO Dialogues for an excellent description of the left brain & right brain functions.
3. Soft/Empowered: Softness is a state where we are open to the world around us. ¹An excellent discussion on Gentleness in the book by Chögyam Trungpa, “Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior”. The scale of softness goes from “0 – I am unable to hear anything’ to “10 – I can hold all perspectives”.
   Empowered is a state where we believe in ourself without external validation. It is a state of confidence – where we can confide in ourselves unconditionally. The scale goes from “0 – I do not exist” to “10 – I can advocate for myself effectively”.